Why our Wedding didn't change our Relationship

Why our Wedding didn't change our Relationship

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Last night I watched a very interesting documentary on Netflix called, “I AM”. The documentary was a reminder that the things we are “taught to think” will make us happy are actually a lie. Happiness and fulfillment come from love & compassion. The flesh is never satisfied therefore a bigger house, nicer car or a new outfit is typically not the answer to long term happiness. The answer is a deep & intimate relationship with love. I’m not sure you know this but God…is love. (1 John 4:8)

And the gift of his love is…free.

As I watched the documentary, I started to recall a conversation my husband & I had on our honeymoon. One that was quite interesting to have as newlyweds relaxing in a cabana on the white sandy beaches of Cancun. We discussed how the vibe of our relationship had not changed, the title did and of course the commitment we made before God and our wedding was ahhhmazing. But our “day to day” feelings toward each other had not. It actually felt the exact same, besides a few extra perks (wink, wink*). As I relaxed deeper into the canopy, listening to the sound of the waves I was grateful for the work and the preparation we did learning & loving each other, but as I drifted deeper in thought I said…

“I wonder how many couples said “I do” just because they thought it would change the tone of their relationship? Carrington, nodded in agreement and added, “The same goes for couples thinking “having a baby” will do the trick”. When it essentially…it won’t.  

God’s will is the trick.

I’m so grateful that my husband and I have a pure & abundant love for one another and that we choose love every single day. This is simply a reminder to anyone in a place of constant seeking…seeking to be loved, seeking to be seen, seeking to be known, or seeking to married. The only thing that will completely fulfill you is God. Allow God to be your ultimate source.   

My husband is the greatest blessing God has given me, and I thank him daily for our beautiful relationship. But as I laid on the beach I couldn't help but think of the bullets I dodged. Blessing in disguise, one might say. I couldn't imagine sharing that moment with some random guy, trying to make it romantic, trying to make it real. It just wouldn't have worked…

 

My hubby & I in Playa Del Carmen in a 200 feet deep cave #HoneymoonAction

My hubby & I in Playa Del Carmen in a 200 feet deep cave #HoneymoonAction

#BeachLife

#BeachLife

Quite time on the beach. #Cancun

Quite time on the beach. #Cancun

With so much love,

 Ashley Brown

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