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When Inspiration Turns to Jealousy
There is a bible verse that says..."If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." (James 1:5) This bible verse proves true time and time again. I recently went through a season of comparison, jealousy, and insecurity and God revealed to me some tricks of the enemy that changed my entire perspective on "admiration of others". As you may know, my blog radiates transparency and everything I write about comes from personal experience. I look at myself as an aerobic instructor doing the moves before I demonstrate to everyone how it's done with the intention of showing people that Christians are human, we all go through things.
Have you ever followed someone on social media so closely that you feel like you know them personally and you often leave their page with a "I with I had...this or that" feeling?
Have you ever initially been inspired by someone, then it turned to jealousy?
Or, admired someone so much that you started to get envious of the "big things" it appeared they were doing?
God showed me that he places people in our lives or puts them on our "radar", to spark inspiration within us. When we start to obsess over another persons life, be it a celebrity or your everyday person, it gives the enemy an open door to distract you from the purpose that person was supposed to play in your life.
The 2 biggest ways to know when the inspiration faze has gone too far is when:
1.) You find yourself constantly comparing yourself to them and it leaves you with a feeling of unworthiness or inadequacy.
2.) You have stopped looking at them for inspiration, but now you see them as competition.
Envy is distress over another persons success. Opposition wants us to stay in a place of jealousy and dissatisfaction to distract us from our purpose so we are no longer inspired. God on the other hand wants us to take the things that inspire us and use them as tools to better ourselves in our own lives.
For instance, when I struggled with inspiration turning into jealousy, I began to think of people who I was inspired by and the qualities in them that I most respected. I looked at those things as lessons for areas I wanted to grow and improve. Instead of beating myself up, I embraced how God made me and stopped comparing my chapter 1 to their chapter 15.
So with that being said...I've noticed a lot of people are in denial about jealousy because they don't want to come off as a "hater" or "insecure", and then there are few brave souls that are willing speak up and let people know how they overcame. If these issues aren't addressed it can be toxic to relationships and to your self-esteem. The ultimate answer and cure for envy is LOVE. If you can think of someone in your life where "admiration" has turned negative, join me in praying for that person's success and happiness for the next 30 days. When you pray, chains are broken. Initially this may be hard, but trust me prayer & love leads to deliverance.
Remember, God has placed those people in your life to expand your vision and ignite certain passions within you. It's okay to be inspired by someone, but don't let self-comparison rob you of your natural uniqueness. Realize you are cool enough yourself, flaws & all.
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