You Have Not, Because You Ask Not

 What do you need that you aren’t asking for?

I haven’t blogged in a while, and the reason is simple. I only write when I have something to say. Lately I have been so busy that I have had to apologize to God for my lack of obedience in sharing the messages and lessons he has given to me, but I am striving to do better. Nevertheless, today topic is a must share.


The other day I heard a quote that literally hasn’t left my spirit since I first heard it. I am seeing the truth to the statement more vividly each day in my life, and in the life of those around me. The quote said…

“You do not attract what you want, you attract what you are”.

This is a powerful statement because it shows you that you have to BE what you are asking for. If you want to lead a woman’s ministry, you have to BE the person that is capable of leading a group of women. If you want to get married you have to prepare to BE a wife. You can't sit around hoping and wishing for these things you must be the person now and ask God for them. One of my favorite speakers once said that if you want more you have to become more, and if you haven’t gotten much, perhaps its because you haven’t become much. Ouch! It’s a harsh but profound truth.

Who are you being? Is it aligned with who you wish to be? Or what you hope to accomplish?

Recently I have been observing a friend of mine who is literally kicking butt and taking names. From getting a new promotion, to expanding her work responsibilities, and receiving grandiose perks that the average employee is too hesitant (or doesn’t feel worthy enough) to ask for. I see her walking in her greatness, and I have been taking notes. There are 2 things that I noticed about this wonder woman:

  1. She “Asks” for what she wants and in turn she is enjoying the fruit of her request, although she may not have reaped these benefits immediately, she was patient and didn’t high jack the process.


  2. She has “BEEN” living and walking in her greatness long before she got the promotion or received all the other bonuses. She carried herself with confidence and was laser focused on accomplishing her goals.  It’s funny, because now I see how her position has caught up to who she has been all along.

This is amazing to me. God gave us the ability to take advantage of personal development by listening to holy spirit and seeking him for wisdom on this journey. (Matthew 6:33)  We are not far from greatness, we just have to move from “trying” to “being”.

The other day I posted on my Facebook page the following post and I think it’s a good way to wrap up this blog.

 “Believe in yourself so strongly, that the world can’t help but to believe in you too. The issue is not whats holding you back, the issue is you don't see the greatness within you. Why is it so easy to believe that God made the stars, heavens and the moon, but you can't believe you were made perfect in his image?” -Ashley Empowers

So my question for you is , what you NOT asking for? Who are you being? If its not aligned with God’s awesome mind blowing plan, pause and get yourself back on track. And if you are on your journey and you are not where you want to be in the process, keep walking, breathing and living as if you are already there. Be blessed.

“When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” - James 4:3

(Everything for HIS Glory)

Live (BE) in your greatness,


P.S- If you want more, you have to become more. If you don’t ask the answer is always no.

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P.S- If you want more, you have to become more. If you don’t ask the answer is always no.

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